“Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage, the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon; it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding rooms for things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.”
Paul Newman’s letter to his wife on their wedding (via graceingray)
We had our officiant read this at our wedding! It makes me happy to see people liking it. Newman 4-eva.
And some of us were busy watching four back-to-back episodes of I Survived.
I prefer I Shouldn’t Be Alive, myself. With I Survived, you already know what happened. In I Shouldn’t Be Alive, you just want to know the beginning. In fact, there’s one about some stranded quadriplegic burning a hole in my DVD right now!
Let’s not forget I’m Alive!
FYI, I have not abandoned my cake making. The Cake-Off has been postponed until this weekend. Some of the cake-offers had really busy Columbus Day weekends. And some of us were busy watching four back-to-back episodes of I Survived. So yeah. This upcoming weekend the cake will go on.
Sneak preview: Some very awesome people in Connecticut (Connecticut! Ha!) apparently just mailed me a giant box of apples. Apple cake? Hmm?